I should....

Here was my thought process on my off Friday today when Teagan started her nap:

I should pull in the trash cans into garage.
I should do the dishes.
I should clean the house.
I should work on Teagan's year 2 photo book.
I should take this alone time to play the piano.
I should take this alone time to work on my latest sewing project.
I should take this alone time to watch shows on my full DVR.

I should...... [and I was out].

A hour later I woke up to a little girl yelling my name from her room. I should say a little girl yelling "Momma, I pooped!"

I wouldn't trade motherhood for anything :)


Love,

Cuteday Tuesday

The other day we were reading a picture book with Teagan. There was a picture of a gas station and she told us it was a "slushy."

LOL. Oops....we LOVE slushies and usually pick one up when we go to the gas station.

So gas stations are slushies.

Happy Cuteday!

Love,

You Should....

You should go out with your friends.
You should have a date night.
You should take a break and treat yourself to some alone time.

Sound familiar?

Once you have kids everyone becomes experts on what you should do. These are almost default statements and no consideration is taken if you do go out or not. You're able to schedule your life when you're childless but once you have children, others tell you what you need to do.

While though I have a forgetful mommy brain and I do get stressed, I know what I need to do.

As a busy working parent, I spend a lot of time away from my child. Then I'm given a guilt trip for wanting to spend the time I do have with her. Kim has "attachment issues." Kim is on ''Team Teagan." Kim "needs to let go a little." Blah, blah, blah. I've heard it all.

I was thinking about why people care so much about what I do. The logical reasons I came up with are 1) people want to spend time with me, or 2) people want to spend time with Teagan.

So I propose instead of "you should" statements, try:

I want to hang out with you san kiddo.
I want to babysit your daughter.

There, no mom guilt attached.

Love,

The Mom Swimsuit

Its here....

My first mom swimsuit.

Mine's a pink orange color.

This summer I was uncomfortable in my old two piece suits. I found myself covering up every chance I could so I decided that I need a mom suit. Its not that the bikinis don't fit me any more. I'm actually in better shape then pre-pregnancy. I have two reasons why I need a mom suit:

1) I feel inappropriate being a mother and showing off my body.
2) I need a suit that can keep up with a toddler.

Besides...I'm turning 30 very soon and I'm trying dress more my age. I want to be classy.

So hello mom suit.

Cuteday Tuesday

Teagan went golfing.

Happy Cuteday!

Love,

OT Monies

What do you other working mommas do with your overtime pay?

My first thought is to spend it on Teagan. She misses out when I work overtime. Plus there's that major mom guilt. Shouldn't I spoil her back?

But then I think about myself. I worked hard. Sometimes I deserved to be spoiled.

But wait, I have a husband and a family. I should use the extra pay for something that everyone I love will enjoy.


Oh you are a complicated subject overtime pay. One would think it would be easy to spend extra money, but I have an over active conscience.


Love,

Cuteday Tuesday

I charge my cell phone on my nightstand. Teagan is a smart little observer and copycat. When I went to bed last night I saw this:

One play flip phone and one play smart phone, stacked neatly, ready to charge like Mommy's phone. Teagan makes me smile.

Happy Cuteday! Love,

Mommy Attachment

At our last session before summer, our PAT educator warned us that parent attachment peaks at age 2. She sure wasn't kidding.

Teagan always has been pretty social (another benefit to daycare), and never had a strong parent attachment. Bret and I wish for her to feel secure and confident. We encourage her to interact with others.

Lately though we are failing. She has a HUGE mommy attachment. Mommy has to do everything from reading books, to picking up Teagan, to pushing the shopping cart, to getting Teagan a drink. Daddy is not allowed. She says "No" to friends and family that Teagan used to hug and play with. We went on a vacation and Mommy had to do everything. There were 3 other adults and I couldn't catch a break. She only wanted Mommy.

Teagan LOVES her grandma. The three of us went to lunch yesterday and Teagan asked me to pick her up. That never happens when grandma is around.

While though I love the extra attention, its selfish of me to support it. And this attachment can be frustrating at times. I had the flu Thursday and couldn't get any rest. I try to comfort Teagan's needs while encouraging her to interact with others, esp her Daddy.

Anyone else have the extreme 2 year old parent attachment? Any hints to help your child?

Love,

Miss Bossy

Miss Teagan,

You woke up in a such a grumpy mood this morning. After 10 blissful minutes of inconsolable crying, you settle down. You proceeded to play with Mommy's shoes while I got dressed, but came out of my closet and told me to "Be Quiet!"

Who stole my sweet, polite little girl and switched her with this grouchy pants?

I'm not going to lie, the usual Mom Guilt was missing this morning when I dropped you off at daycare.

You're teachers said you were a saint. Thanks for showing Mommy and Daddy your true colors.


Love Mommy.